While I was thinking what topic I should chose for writing on my blog, a book placed at my book shelf gets attraction. The name of the book is “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by DALE CARNEGIE.
The title of the book is as appealing to my nature as I love making friends and I would love to go in deep readings just to find out the ways to inspire and influence people. Yeah I believe, I have some hidden leadership qualities in me (oh yes, leadership qualities) and the best thing about being a leader is to get plenty of love and loads of affection from followers. With that devotion from followers, leader is always challenging and a man of good sense of responsibility. It always excites me to read stuff that is challenging to one’s soul, to win people interest and to understand other point of views. Although, I know there are some of so annoying human existence with us but we all have some sort of qualities which are not in favor. In short, we are all not so perfect.
Anyways, coming back to the small book by the great writer, I would like here to highlight Twelve Ways of Winning People to Your Way of Thinking. This is interesting!
Rule 1: The only way to get the best of an argument t is to avoid it.
Rule 2: Show respect for the other man’s opinions. Never tell a man he I wrong.
Rule 3: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
Rule 4: Begin in a friendly way.
Rule 5: Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
Rule 6: Let the other man do a great deal of talking.
Rule7: Let the other man feel that the idea is his.
Rule 8: Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
Rule 9: Be sympathetic to the other person’s ideas and desires.
Rule 10: Appeal to the nobler motives.
Rule 11: Dramatize your ideas.
Rule 12: Throw down a challenge.
I hope the above few pointers will benefit your efforts in winning people to your way of thinking. I will keep sharing valuable words with my readers in future too.
I always think how different any conversation would be ?
Every talk got to have some reasoning like to inform and get informed, to order and to be ordered, to listen and to be listened, to teach and to be taught. Reasons are too many. I always try to make conversations with random people to perceive their thoughts, attitudes, perspectives and nature of living. It makes me happy from inside. It will make you happy too.
Let me tell you how can you make an interesting and happy conversation. First of all, you don’t need to have any particular typical topic to get started. One should have it in mind that YOU WANT TO HAVE A HAPPY CONVERSATION and that’s it ! when we talk about happy conversation, it explains you will talk in interest of other person, you will make him/her comfortable with you. An important factor in any communication is mutual understanding and this should never ever be ignored. Be simple, Be honest, do not be personal, maintain respect, wear a smile on your face and enjoy the conversation. Do remember the words in capital letters.
At times, moments of laughter and giggling starts unconditionally and boosts up a conversation. These talks are ever cheerful, joyous and pleasant. Do not miss a chance to have a happy conversation. It brights your day, enlightens your soul and make you feel better then ever. Small conversations are way affecting and inspiring. If you have someone you are not in touch, make a call and do a conversation that makes you happy and your friend the happiest. Trust me, you will feel awesome.
Happiness is having a happy conversation.
Have you ever thought about it ?
We all probably answer in NO because it is not being any important source to our daily lives.
The answer to this question is simply given by a little poor girl, who resides in a rural area. The girl named, bakhtawar met me on my visit to a village, with my family.
Poor girl was having lunch and I was sitting next to her. We were sitting outside a hut in a summery day. As load shedding is now a daily part of Pakistanis, the electricity went off for two hours and I started talking to her about intensity of heat in these summers. The sun was so hot and sun rays was hitting earth directly. On asking about electricity and how do they sleep, in the absence of light?
Bakhtawar replied with a soft smile that we sleep so well in nights and there is no disturbance at all. I was little surprised but glad to hear from her as she felt little shy in front of me. Well, she further told me that there is a neam tree in her house which has scattered leaves, thick stem and it is huge in size. The neem tree is like air-condition to them. It gives breezy wind throughout the night and save them from hot weather in daylight. All of the family members and even children of the neighbors sleep in the shadow of the tree. Little girl further said that neem tree is so much beneficial for them in every weather and tree is the best part of their home and we all just love it.
Her love for neem tree was so pure. By looking at her, I felt so much satisfaction and expressions of joy on her face. Then, I understand that how trees can also be so useful in fulfilling someone’s needs and of course, trees are important and are needed to be valued.
Let’s come to the beauty and uses of evergreen neem tree.
Neem tree is a symbol of health.
Neem tree is mostly famous in India but is also found in Pakistan and other places. There are countless benefits of using neem in our lives for multiple reasons. Many other names are also given to neem as “Divine tree”. It has great significance in providing beauty treatments and yes, it must be a favorite for women all over.
Hence, life is not about artificial luxuries, it is all about adaption of beautiful nature and simplicity in our lives.
As I looked from the window of my car, the sight fascinated me. I have never seen such an attraction to my eyes. The big yellow flowers painted a beautiful scenery that i have never seen before in my life. Yes I am talking about sunflowers, that are grow for beauty and known for beauty.
As i entered in the field of sunflowers, i was amazed to see those tall and bright colored flowers, which are big in size and are heavy in weight. Sunflowers have big, daisy like flower faces of bright yellow petals and brown centers that ripen into heavy heads filled with seeds. These flowers are to provide seeds that are used in cooking oil, feeding birds, healthy foods and many more. The special features of sunflowers is that it attracts birds and butterflies. I also some bees and birds in the field. The yellow bed of sunflowers gave a mesmerizing sight and i loved being there.
All the sunflowers were looking towards the sun as it is the basic need of flowers. That scene was so appealing. I was in the fields for two hours and i wanted to be there till evening to capture the scene at sunset.
Have look at the beauty of this nature. Thankful for a blessing.